It's that time of year again when I start evaluating my actions and my choices, what I am proud to have done and what I really screwed up, what friends I have gained and what friends I have lost, and if I have made (in my own mind) any useful contribution to society.
I have a long list this year of people to thank, and I am sure you all do too. It starts with unknown soldiers fighting for our ideals, and ends with the unknown clerk who pulled a few pennies from her own pocket to finish my purchase. There is a huge list in between.
I'm grateful for all that people have provided me. I'm not thankful for my paycheck, I'm thankful to the man who gives it to me. I'm not thankful for freedom, I'm thankful for all the people that have given their lives and efforts to maintain it. I'm not thankful for the institute of marriage, but I am greatly thankful to Dana for all we share. You get the idea. I've decided that personalization, and maybe personification, is where my focus needs to be. I can't thank a statue, but I can thank the people who put it there. An idea itself needs no thanks, but it's creator may.
I read an article the other day that said the third date is generally considered the right time to have sex, the first makes you cheap and easy (or eager), and the fifth means you may not be hitting it off. This got me to thinking: What time or tragedy has to transpire before you can refer to someone as "a friend"? I frequently say "Well, one of my supercub friends up in (washington, south dakota, minnesota, texas, alaska, florida, etc, etc) did X or Y". Some of you I have met, some I have not, but I still consider all of you my friends. It is a great feeling to know that I can go to almost any state, and find someone with whom I share common interests. For this, and for you, I am also deeply thankful.
Thanksgiving has become less of a day of humble thanks, and more of a day of excess - excessive eating at the least. Tomorrow, I'm going to try to eat less, and thank more. You can bet I'll be thinking of all you.
Have a great holiday!